Red light achievement unlocked

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Sometimes, while driving to a destination, and I find myself hitting a couple red lights in a row, I pretend that if I keep hitting red lights, I’ll unlock some kind hidden achievement.

Then I actually start hoping for red lights the whole way…

But inevitably, it doesn’t happen. But the funny thing is, I don’t mind, because green lights are good, too.

It seems that as soon as you don’t mind what is typically considered an inconvenience, it has no power over you.

And you know what that is?

A step towards inner peace.

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The doorman

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Dear Universe,

I will continue to open or hold doors for people regardless of how many times I fail to be acknowledged…

But I appreciate the discipline it’s teaching me to not want to say, “You’re welcome!” and smack them on the back of the head. ;)





*Never let the selfish or ungrateful actions of a few spoil it for the many.

Regardless of whether you’re acknowledged or not, your acts of kindness help set a good example for others to follow.

And if you are truly acting out of kindness, it isn’t for the “thanks” or the acknowledgement. It’s simply because you want to.

And the world could always use more kindness and more good examples. So don’t stop.

Whether you’re acknowledged or not, your kindness is far more appreciated than you realize.

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When your thoughts wander

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Whenever you catch your thoughts wandering, take a moment to stop and ask yourself, “What is good about this moment?”

And since you’re asking yourself this question, you might as well take a moment to answer.

There’s always a reason for gratitude. And when you take the time to periodically stop and ask yourself this question, you’ll discover more and more things to be grateful for.

Even if it’s simply that you weren’t eaten by a giant mutant radioactive squirrel.

Although, seriously, think of how few people ever get to experience that.

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Worry some

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In an effort to reduce the almost exclusive trend of people worrying about bad things, I suggest that we all take a moment to worry about something positive.

For example, I’m worried that I’m going to “win the lottery” soon and my life will just get too awesome.

And while I’m at it, I’m also worried that I will soon be approached by so many potential mates, I’ll have a hard time deciding which women to go out with.

Damn. It feels good to worry about awesome things.

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Spray kindness

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You know who could use more kindness in their life?

Everyone. Everywhere.

Spray that shit on everyone.

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"Go outside and get a clear view of the sky."

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I have this app that I use to record my path of travel when I drive.

And every time I hit start, it says:

“Go outside and get a clear view of the sky.”

And really, I think there is wisdom in this — and it’s something we should all be doing daily.

Going outside.
Looking up at the sky.
Taking a moment to just breathe.
Releasing all our troubling thoughts.
And contemplating the wonder of the world.

Yeah. Do that.

Go outside and get a clear view of the sky.

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Kindness. Encourage that shit.

Kindness. Encourage that shit.

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Kindness. Encourage that shit.

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Picking one's battles

Let’s see…

Spend my time trying to argue a point or spend my time being a good example?

Spend my time getting worked up over a difference of opinion or spend my time being productive?

Spend my time researching facts and being logical in a conversation with someone who has no room in their belief system for either or put my time and energy into something that potentially enriches my life and those I connect with?

Yeah. That’s what I thought.

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This post represents more of my approach to this sort of thing than it does with anything happening in my life.

I thought I’d share because of some of the things I saw going by in my news feed this morning.

One of the issues is that beliefs are often stronger than logic. And those who believe something will go to no effort to find anything that contradicts that belief.

Of course, it makes sense. We always search for only the truths that reinforce our arguments and beliefs.

We find what we seek.

While some arguments and point of view are certainly worth fighting for, in most cases, neither person can consider victory, because neither person’s point of view will be swayed…

At least not in the types of internet arguments I’m talking about.

Logical discussion of opposing views is one thing. But when one side refuses to look for or listen to logic, there really isn’t much of a point (in my opinion). Especially when/if the other person’s argument eats at you and all you want to do is “prove them wrong” (which will likely never happen). You can end up spending a tremendous amount of thought, time, and energy on something that won’t really change a situation.

Whereas, you can choose to focus on something productive that makes you or others feel better without being divisive with “winners” and “losers” and such.

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